How to avoid bad decisions dating
Granted, there are exceptions (maybe don’t tell your BFF who just lost her job that you’re considering taking a new one).But when you find yourself fibbing, ask yourself if you’re doing it to avoid another person calling you out on your choices — if so, that’s a bad sign.“The urge to get something over with is often a sign something’s off-keel,” says Gina Ryan, an anxiety coach and mindful eating expert.(Let’s discuss that e-mail you sent your ex after two glasses of wine another time.)How do we avoid making choices that invite regret or resentment or erode our well-being?
Even if you don’t follow their advice to a T, she says, viewing your future through others’ lenses helps you discover solutions you may never have come up with by yourself.
A 2019 study found that breathing in a 5-2-7 pattern can lower stress levels and help people make better decisions. DOI: 10.1016/j.ijpsycho.20A 2006 study found that when people are deprived of Zzz’s, they’re more likely to make decisions that aren’t in their (or others’) best interests, since their brains are too exhausted to adequately compute risk.
Trust the wisdom of “sleep on it” and wait until you’re more rested to say yes or no to bigger decisions — as well as temptations.
Take another week to research what program or field aligns with your interests and another to factor in deadlines.“The sense of immediacy is good in a way, because it helps us to not get stuck in indecision — we just want to harness and manage it,” Carmichael adds.
Another way to combat urges to immediately act on impulses is to deploy the 10/10/10 rule, popularized by business writer Suzy Welch.